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"It's been such an emotional roller coaster for me," he said."There are moments where I feel contrite and there are other moments where I swing over and I'm defensive and I'm mad that people are blaming me for things... But, the reason I don't, is because I believe that this is the pathway of growth for me, that I'm going to learn things in facing up to what I got wrong." "There's transformational power in admitting that you got something wrong," he added.“The truth is is that there are all kinds of categories of sin where we sin and we don't change our status,” Harris says.The focus on virginity, he says, changes the focus from “who am I in relationship to God who loves and relates to sinners?He also Skypes with fans and critics of the book.“My book hurt people. My thinking has changed since I wrote I Kissed Dating Goodbye. I don’t agree with a lot of my own book.”Harris was married shortly after he wrote the book.My book helped people,” he says during the documentary. He then became pastor of Covenant Life, a church in Gaithersburg, Md.However, two decades later, Harris, now a married father of three, admitted that over the years, a number of individuals have shared how his book negatively affected them and promoted a damaging and unhelpful view of sexuality, relationships, and dating.Harris said that while there are some good ideas in "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" -- like the fact that "you don't have to be in a dating relationship to be a whole person" -- his eyes have been opened over the past few years to "see some fundamental problems" he included in the book.
He went to a singles meeting during that era in which women were on one side of the room and men on the other side -- and they were afraid to talk.
"I stopped having to be constantly right about everything," he said.
"I just became a student who was listening." Today, Harris said he's working with those who have been hurt by his book and is even producing a documentary that shares his journey and delves into how religious communities talk about sex and relationships.
The purity movement, Harris says, had a good intention but “its sales pitch of using sex as the most important thing to sell abstinence actually led people to value and to focus on the wrong thing.” By replacing traditional dating with courtship, a new set of problems were created, Harris says.
Courtship teaches that a man and woman should only “go out” if marriage was the goal.