Online chatting with older women
In the US, online dating is now the second most common way for heterosexual couples to meet (behind introductions through friends). After millions of years of human evolution, and thousands of years of the development of human society, humans had settled on the idea that in-person interactions through fun, face-to-face social activities were the best way to meet new people.
And then along came online dating to blow that idea away.
Your reasons for finding someone are often broader and more diverse; you may not even be really sure if it’s romance you’re looking for at all.
Add those complications to the fact that online dating is, for many people, a thoroughly dispiriting experience, and it’s no wonder that older adults are more likely to rate it as a negative experience than any other demographic. If people are finding love through online dating sites, why does it fail so many others?
There is increasing evidence that, in face-to-face meetings, we are subconsciously picking up clues about the suitability of future partners based on a wide variety of non-verbal information.
Online dating lures us with the false promise of an “ideal” partner so much that we apply filters that ensure we never get to meet that person in the first place.
You’ve just met someone who is good at telling you what you want to hear.
And it gets worse the more prescriptive you are about your requirements.
Some sites take this to an extreme degree and let you go nuts specifying the attributes you want: professional background, religion, salary, ethnicity, personal habits, even pet preferences!
If you’ve ever created an online dating profile for yourself, you know that it only scratches the surface of what you’re like.
No profile, no matter how well-written, could ever hope to capture the full extent of your personality.