Dating by texting
In reality, someone who is interested will respond as soon as they can and will actually want to. If you're not able to respond at that moment because you're studying, busy, or working, then you write back later and say, "'Hey I got your text earlier today, this is the first chance I've had to respond.’” Yup, it’s really as simple as that! So, while it is a whole lot easier to receive a direct answer, ladies leave more delicate cues—pay attention to the small details! If your text exchange turns flirty, then maybe toss out a feeler or two to see how she responds.
And if they’re busy with friends, studying, or at work? If someone tries to respond to you in a timely manner, you can be confident that they’re interested; however, it is a two-way street! "Guys tend to be very direct and they tend to be thinking more in cause and effect, and they have an objective—the girl will be more subtle,” says Dr. “She won't come out right and say, 'I want to go out with you.' She’ll express interest in a more subtle way.” While it can be scary to answer a direct question, it’ll only work for your benefit to be straight-up with your answer. Compliments are a major sign of interest, but make sure that she’s not just being friendly! Wanis also notes that some people are emoji people and others are not.
You might even get hung up on trivial things like their punctuation (we've all been there). Patrick Wanis, human behavior and relationship expert and author of on five texting behaviors that indicate interest.When you're interested in each other but don't know each other well, navigating through an often-confusing form of communication becomes that much harder.And, it's important to add, even dating or being married for years can cause texting-related conflicts."I hear about fights escalating over text all the time in my therapy practice," Dr. "Someone is having a bad day and reads everything with a negative tone, so the slightest ambiguous message is suddenly an insult." If people who are literally married still struggle understanding each other through their phones, what chance does everyone else stand?Turns out, just as much as anyone dating pre-i Phones did, if you're willing to prioritize in-person hangs as much as you possible so you have more visual cues. Saedi herself married someone who didn't share her texting habits: "When I was dating my husband, he was a fairly infrequent texter. Ideally, not baring your soul." If you're at a point in your relationship where you don't see each other a lot during the week yet, that's OK too.