Dangers of dating a married woman
He was popular and outgoing, known for his infectious sense of humor.
He was known as a class-clown as well as being a successful athlete; he was wide receiver on the high-school football team in the fall, playing baseball and running track and field in the spring.
Naturally, as soon as the post went up, the apologists where there with their favorite questions and complaints. By that morning, she was pronounced dead at the hospital.
Because she didn’t want to go to the prom with somebody who was by all accounts a popular and well-liked student at her high-school.
Every time I answer a woman’s question about dealing with somebody who’s being creepy, there are the inevitable apologists.
Case in point: at my Kotaku column, a woman wrote in about a Nice Guy who wouldn’t leave her alone at a party. ” “He clearly wasn’t a threat, he was just socially awkward.” Of course, when people explained that she might have concerns for her physical safety, we got the On April 25th, Chris Plaskon, a junior at Jonathan Law High-School in Milford Connecticut, asked Meran Sanchez to go to the prom with him. So he grabbed her by the throat, pushed her down a flight of stairs and then stabbed her repeatedly in the face, chest and throat.
Except it’s all well and good for those guys to insist that they’re Not That Guy…
Are you able to live with the knowledge that you were part of something that caused suffering of innocent parties?
Remember that no matter what he tells you about his wife, your dating a married a man is your choice not hers. No matter how you may justify the relationship in your own mind, you are still treading on someone else’s territory.
And yet, mentioning these stories will bring out the apologists, the Not-All-Men, the dismissers and the derailers, and the ones who will continue to complain that women aren’t saying “no” clearly enough. For a lot of guys – especially ones who ignore soft no’s – holding on to those ambiguities gives them the opportunity to try again and again.
In fact, this is the basis of the techniques pick-up artists teach to overcome “last minute resistance” – applying social pressure to coerce a woman into sleeping with the PUA even when she doesn’t want to.